Asian Family Expectations

We’ve heard about rigid, authoritarian Eastern upbringings a bit lately, with Amy Chua’s text Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother recounting countless music practice sessions after school and studies showing that Eastern parents place high emphasis on children’s academic achievement. But what we do n’t hear about are the many reasons why Asian families might be so demanding of their children.

One reason is that in most Asiatic civilizations, father devotion and paternal religiosity are extremely valued. Kids expect their kids to carry on the home brand, serve their in- norms and respect and honor their elders, including kids. Children are taught to remain polite and calm, nervous and respectful. Emotional outbursts are discouraged, and youngsters who fail to meet their relatives’ objectives are shamed ( also known as “losing face” ). Parents are scarcely forthcoming with empathy or compliment because of the fear that they will motivate laziness.

In improvement, extended communities are frequent in Asiatic communities and two or three millennia properly live under the same roof. In many of these people, the daddy is head of household and main decisions are made by him. Adult toddlers, despite their education and professional requirements, are expected to stay home to take care of the elderly members of the household. This is especially true in China, where girls are considered poor to brothers. It is for these factors that it can be difficult for Asians to recognize that their kids are unable to satisfy certain interpersonal expectations and needs.